How to Get a Boyfriend without Really Trying

Something that some women wonder, from time to time, especially when they are tired of putting out energy, is how to get a boyfriend without really trying. This is not a strange phenomenon. It can, and does, happen more often than you would think.

To begin with, how often have you heard the expression, “When you least expect it?” That one applies many times to a woman suddenly getting a boyfriend when she is not even looking for one. This may happen when she has finally accepted that a past relationship is over, and that she needs to move on. She is most likely trying to heal and become comfortable with herself. To prove that she is stronger, she goes out to a small club, bar, or restaurant by herself. As she sits nursing her drink, a man asks if he can sit with her. That is just the beginning. You see that she didn’t do anything to encourage this, but yet, there he is: Her new boyfriend.

Many times, the trick is to simply NOT be looking. Just when you have given up or have no interest whatsoever in trying to land a guy, that’s when they come looking. It’s just something about a woman who appears aloof and uninterested that draws in a man. Maybe it’s because they feel it is a challenge to see if they can get the woman’s attention. Or it may be that she is suddenly looking quite confident sitting there with her drink and a book. For whatever reason, it seems to never fail.

Another way of how to get a boyfriend without really trying is to simply look your very best and go somewhere that you know guys that you would be interested in are going to be. Then sit in a place that is not obvious, but a bit noticeable. You will find that, in no time, you will be approached as many times as you will allow it by guys. This is the perfect situation in which to pick and choose. It will not be surprising to find that as many guys as you want will leave with your phone number.

All of this does not mean that you should resort to slutty behavior. Sleeping around is NOT the way to find your perfect guy. That sort of thing only results in giving you a rather unsavory reputation. Yes, it is shallow and unfair that guys can indulge in a one night stand 352 nights of the year and no one says a word. However, that is just the way life is and fighting it is not going to change a thing. Besides, when you sleep around, you really don’t get a fulfilled lifestyle from it.

Having said that, it is FINE to appear available for a chat, dating and possible relationship. That is the vibe you want to project when you settle yourself into a place comfortably. You don’t want guys to think that you are there so that you can see how many of them you can sleep with in a night. You are there as a confident single woman who just might talk to them if they are nice.

Something else that has worked for many women is to spend time in a place that will draw men with same interests. For example, if you are an avid reader, what could be a better place to meet like-minded men than a book store or the library? Many bookshops even offer a small coffee café where you and someone you meet there could get acquainted over coffee. This is an excellent way to enjoy an afternoon even if you don’t meet someone. But the chances are pretty high that you will.

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