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How to get a guy interested and keep him
A question on every womans mind is how to keep her man once she’s got him. Keeping him from leaving her, keeping him from straying, keeping things interesting and keeping that attraction alive is all on many womens minds. What many women are unaware of however is that you could be unknowingly sabotaging any attraction that could have taken place had you been more self aware of your own attitude towards men. Perhaps you have some prejudice towards men going on because of previous heart break or distrust towards men because of one guy who treated you badly or was unfaithful. Women also have many misconceptions when it comes to initial attraction and will categorize all men as sex-crazed and “typical”. Read on to find out the truth about attraction and what you can do to create a spark.
Physical attraction
Looks DO matter. This is the truth. It is also true to say what one guy finds attractive, another may not at all. Stick thin models, big boobs and perfectly round butts are many guys fantasies but the truth is those things aren’t what makes a guy fall in love, and just how many picture perfect “Hollywood-esque” couples do you see day to day in real life anyway? If at all…
Guys like to be in relationships with cute looking women who take care of themselves. So take care of the hygiene factors which means eating right, going to the gym, take care of your hair and nails and dressing in clothes that compliment you so you look and feel your best. This isn’t to say you need to obsess and become the “Barbie type” it simply means do for yourself as you would expect your ideal guy to do for you. Do your best to get in shape, not for anyone else, but for you. As I have explained many times when coaching women in their pursuit for a relationship, self confidence and self esteem are the foundations for a healthy relationship.
Something you should also know is that men are highly aroused by sweet feminine smells. So invest in scents and sweet smelling shampoos that’s sure to drive a guy wild.
Show him your “other side”
When you’re around his friends and family it’s important to represent yourself as a loyal, caring and sweet natured girl. But there’s always a time and a place to let your freak out and that’s when you’re alone together.
Guys love excitement especially with the girl they’re involved with to keep them from getting bored. There’s nothing wrong with having some naughty fun with the guy you like once you’ve played the dating game and wanted to take it to the next level or whether you’re already in a relationship and want to keep it exciting.
Stay classy but have fun where and when you can. Remember that relationships don’t have to be all seriousness and with stresses that may occur in the scheme of things don’t let it overshadow the feelings you have for each other.
Enjoy each others company
When you’re together you want to keep each other on a high note. So don’t spend time you have together complaining about other aspects of your life which may not be going so well at the moment. Or to bitch or moan about other people who are pissing you of. In your mind try to divide the negative of whatever else may be going on and park it someone else in your consciousness and save it for later when you’re by yourself or with your girlfriends. While you are with him stay positive and enjoy yourself and his company.
See him as your escapism, someone you can run to when you want to get away from the seriousness and stresses of life, relax and have fun.
It’s too easy to get comfortable with someone and when the flirting stops the negativity starts to creep in and when you compare who you were in the beginning to where you’re currently at you may find you’re acting in a way you never would of dreamed of if you were trying to create that same attraction you did when you first met.
How to get a guy interested and keep him
Share exciting and powerful emotions on dates Experiences bring people together. Positive experiences where heightened emotions exist create a bond between people that can be very powerful even if you’ve just met. For example; in movies you see it all the time where a guy and a girl through some unfortunate circumstance undergo a series of events in which they have only each other, or depend upon each other to get through some turbulent drama or dramatic scenario in which they inevitably fall in love. The same can be said for real life. When you date someone, get away from the boring and typical dinner or drinks if you really want to create a bond. Step outside your comfort zone. Do something fun and exciting. Go-Karting and Theme Parks are great ideas but it doesn’t have to be so extreme either. Zoo’s, Crazy golf, a trip somewhere… anywhere where adventure is involved and something fun and exciting is better than being sat in an awkward silence for instance where you give yourself and the other person enough time to start criticizing the situation internally. The more positive emotion you can evoke the better. Make him feel wanted and worthy It’s vital to the success of a relationship and the growth of mutual love that you make your man feel worthy. Don’t undervalue or underestimate him in his quest toward his own goals, be supportive. It’s most important to make sure he knows you adore him and will be loyal to him always and to let him know that you want him in your life and tell him why you do. Let him know how you feel and be open to him about the pleasure he brings you. If you’re out shopping and you see something he’d like be thoughtful and get him a gift. Guys REALLY appreciate thoughtfulness. Bare in mind though, you can’t buy love with gifts. It’s the act of thoughtfulness and affection that wins hearts. Cooking for your man and giving a helping hand where needs be should and will make him grateful to you and the love you show. Lovingness should be reciprocated if you have a man worth keeping. Relationships are about give and take. Equality will help each other progress and aid each other in your pursuit of happiness. It’s important here to note that give and take is a two way street, let this be a warning not to be a victim of a guy who takes you for granted, but don’t let previous leaches and moochers sway you from being a giving person. Be sexy We know that men are visual when it comes to initial attraction so be sure to make an effort around your guy to look pretty and to stay sexy. Admittedly sometimes as women we let ourselves go a little when we enter into a relationship. We relax a little more as we are no longer in pursuit and start up the chocolate addictions again and back into the baggy sweats. We must make an effort to stay the same women we first were when we capture our guys heart. Stay in shape, or get in better shape. Keep up appearances with hair, clothing and perfume. It’s more than fine to relax around your man and cuddle up to him in some sweats if you’re having a night in on the sofa but just don’t stop making an effort altogether. You want him to think of you as his sexy woman who he can’t wait to get a hold of. So occasionally dress up, even play dress up to get his heart racing and blood pumping in all areas. Let him know you want him Once in a while send him a naughty text while he’s at work or occupied doing something else. Sure you’ll distract him but he won’t blame you for it. An unexpected naughty text or email, especially a picture text will drive a guy wild. Give him compliments Guys love compliments, just as much as we do but they just don’t get them as often. In fact, compliments may be more powerful to a guy than they are to us. Sometimes when we get compliments from a guy they may not be as meaningful, but to compliment a guy makes him feel empowered and definitely strokes his ego as a man. If he’s been working out tell him you’ve noticed, if he’s cleaned his car, mention how nice it looks… Tell him you like his haircut or dress sense. You can say anything to compliment him just make sure it’s sincere. Compliments will evoke positive emotions within him that he will attach to you. As I said, make sure these compliments are sincere so you aren’t over-doing it as it can have the reverse affect if he feels you aren’t being truthful. Just let him know you appreciate his efforts.
Erin Rose
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