How to get a guy to like you

It's true that guys are very visual when it comes to attraction, more so than women. So the first step to attracting a guy is to look your best. Getting in shape not only benefits your health which is a priority it will also help you to look your best and attract a man. At one point I was 60lbs overweight until I made the choice to do something about it and you can too. But that’s not to say that curvy isn’t beautiful because it is, if you have confidence.

Many men actually prefer a slightly bigger girl over one that’s stick thin, but what really matters after that initial attraction is radiating good energy with a positive and attractive personality. Dress appropriately for your size and shape and show off your best bits (but not too much). Smell good, look fresh, think about your outfit and spend time on your appearance but do not let your looks inhibit your personality. Look good but feel comfortable in your skin.

Be sweet

The last thing you want to do when attracting someone is come across as negative. So don’t bitch, complain, or moan about the negative things in life, your friends or other dramas because that is sure enough to send warning signs to run a mile when a guy is trying to figure you out.

Instead be sweet, show you are a kind, caring and thoughtful person. Guys like girls who are confident but vulnerable also.

Show interest

Get him talking about himself. If he’s interested he will talk freely about himself. This will give you insight into what sort of guy he is and what his interests are. Be interested. Remember to listen, ask questions and compliment him when you can. Having a mutual interest or expressing interest in things he is interested in will help you progress to dating and perhaps a relationship.

Drop hints 

A good way to tell if a guy is genuinely interested in you is to drop subtle hints throughout your conversation about what your interests are and what you do with your time, your family or memorable experiences you’ve had. For example you may say something like “I was on the way to my class/meeting/concert when *this* happened”. If the guy is interested he’ll ask what class you went to or what concert it was and who was playing.

Don’t criticize him

The last thing a guy wants is to be criticized. Especially by a woman he has just met, or is getting to know. If he does something you don’t like, mention it once but do not nag him. You can’t change a person with nagging so accept it or move on.

Be honest, not passive

You don’t have to agree with everything he says and take a backseat in the conversation. Don’t be scared to express your own opinions, likes and dislikes. Just don’t be narrow minded, be open to hearing him out and listening to his point of view.

Don’t be clingy

Distance makes the heart grow fonder, but not too much! It’s important to make time for your friends and family and not to get caught up in the emotions of the excitement of something new and ask to see the guy every day. It’s better to allow some time during the week to give each other some space and perhaps talk on the phone once or twice during the week and make plans to see each other at the weekend and see where it progresses. You don’t need to rush, take things slow.

Be yourself

Don’t try to be someone you’re not to impress anybody or force a connection. Stay grounded with who you are. If you don’t feel comfortable within yourself in the company of a guy, seek out someone you are more compatible with.

Be Spontaneous

You don’t always have to leave it up to him to arrange dates. Surprise him with something fun, especially if it’s something he’d like; a sports game, a place to visit, an activity he likes etc.

If you like him, be like him… Almost

Become familiar with him by jokingly copying his phrases and sayings and getting involved in things he likes.

Don’t put too much pressure on yourself to perform, all it really requires is for you to take an active interest in him.

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